This is a paraphrased transcription of the Word Session during the 2024 Brothers and Sisters Weekend of the Christian Medical and Dental Association of Nigeria, LAUTECH Chapter anchored by Dr. Mrs. Ruth llori, HOD, Department of Community Medicine, LAUTECH Teaching Hospital, Ogbomosho. Yeeh! My eyes! My eyes! Her essence is diffusing through my eyes. Even my pupil cannot control the entry of her sparkling brightness. I have dyspnea when I am around her. Tachycardia finds expression in me with her on sight. She has become my adrenaline pump. She is the glasses through which I see my future. How glamorous will walking down the aisle with her be!  If your thoughts are in similitude with the paragraph above, permit me to announce your diagnosis- You have ‘spectogishgishmia.’ Fortunately, we all have specs, male and female alike. They are individuals whom we have attraction to because of various reasons that fit into our interests.  They exude the scintillating aroma we love and they take our breaths away. We even fantasize marriage, the future and family with them. As Christians, we profess that our lives have been fully committed to the Lord, so His Will becomes our utmost pleasure. Interestingly, utmost pleasure. Interestingly sometimes, our specs may not be His marital will for us because the former are functions of our current scope of life. However, His Ways are higher than our ways, also, are His thoughts.  God originated marriage as His first institutional establishment. He, as the manufacturer, owns its manual and He has purposed it to be beautiful, accomplishing His purposes on earth. One major way the line of the Lord’s Prayer, ‘Thy Kingdom come’, finds expression on earth is marriage. He wants families who will serve Him, prosecute His Will and establish His agenda in the cosmos. He desires Godly offspring who will raise His banner high on earth. Definitely, there is no guarantee of continuity in Christendom without this institution.  God has our best interests at heart. Jermiah 29:11 attests to this. If God has been our help even in the hustle and bustle of medical school, He will definitely not abdicate in our marital choices which will determine if all the former will matter at all. God has created us for more. One cannot afford to miss it maritally. Therefore, if any decision will be made at all, God must be involved (Prov. 3:5-6).  Furthermore, it must be noted that one cannot love without God. God Himself is LOVE.  Emotions, feelings, attraction, infatuation must not be assumed as love. Therefore, one’s marital choice must know God and be mature spiritually. If compatibility exists in all life facets except spirituality, it will not all add up. Moreover, anyone who fails to acknowledge the depravity of the heart of man, is on the verge of jeopardy. No matter how much you have read Thorax and CVS, know that the heart of man is desperately wicked, Jeremiah 17: 9-10 enlightens us about this reality. Only God knows and tests the intents of a man’s heart. The most melodious sister in the choir might be an impending boxing monster. God, as a loving Father, will not put His children in danger, so His Will is the real deal.  It is not wrong to have a spec- beautiful, charming, eloquent, tall, dark and handsome. However, they may just be dark spectacles that may obscure our sight of the future if we are not in tandem with God’s Will.  

Stephen Oyewale